The notion of vaginal tightness holds a special place in our culture. When comedian Nikki Glaser recently pretended to interview other girls to date her boyfriend as part of their open relationship, vagina tightness was the key vetting criteria. Strangely, all the candidates insisted they were extremely tight— too tight, even. Decades of regressive, sexist messages are effective in part because they manage to mutate while still maintaining their effects. More commonly, the pain itself was pleasure. A woman only had to endure it for long enough to become accustomed to it, and then the reward of good feeling would shyly surface from the morass of discomfort.
The vagina itself is never too small to accommodate a penis — remember that its walls are stretchy enough to allow a full-sized baby to pass along it. But it can seem too small for sex if the muscles at its entrance go into a spasm when your partner tries to insert his penis. This is a fairly rare condition called vaginismus. Click to see all the contacts that you may find useful in relation to sexual worries Vagina too tight. Please note we cannot answer your questions directly. If you are concerned, please talk to your doctor.
Almost no vagina is too tight for intercourse. Sometimes, however, you have to help prepare a bit more for penetration. In its unaroused state, the vagina is three to four inches long. That might not seem long enough for some penises or sex toys.
Frustrated in Florida, age 61, had not had sex for nearly 12 years, until recently. She wrote in an email to me:. I always thought sex was like riding a bicycle, but it is not. I experienced such pain during the attempted penetration that we had to stop. What a disappointing and embarrassing moment.